Why “I Love You” Is Often Just Validation
Most people crave to hear the words “I love you.” But if we look deeper, very often those words serve as validation, not love.
- Validation Disguised as Love
“I love you” reassures us: “I am worthy, I am wanted, I am chosen.”
It soothes our insecurity, fear of rejection, or loneliness.
But that’s not love itself — that’s the ego seeking confirmation.
- Why It’s So Common
We’re raised in cultures that glorify declarations of love.
Movies, songs, and stories teach us that the phrase is the ultimate proof.
For many women (and men), those three words feel like safety.
- The Trap
If we need to hear “I love you” to feel secure, we place our self-worth in someone else’s hands.
Then love becomes dependence: fragile, anxious, easily broken.
The truth is: love that needs constant verbal proof is not free — it’s conditional.
- Beyond Validation: True Love
In awakening, love is not about repeated reassurance.
Love is recognition: being seen as you are, light and shadow.
Love is presence: being held without needing constant words.
Love is freedom: not dependence on validation, but wholeness even in silence.
✨ Conclusion
“I love you” is beautiful to hear — but real love is not in the words. It is in recognition, presence, and freedom. When you no longer need those words, you begin to experience love in its highest form.