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Deal Memo: Connection with Him Asset Details Asset: Connection with Him Entry Date: May 2025 Holding Period: ~2.5 months Total Interaction Time: < 15 hours Capital Outlay: $0 financial cost, high emotional capital Initial Intent: Curiosity, openness, mutual encouragement Gains Motivation Engine Harnessed relationship energy as fuel for fitness, self-improvement, creativity, and emotional capital investing. Emotional Alchemy Converted sadness into love within days, proving emotional energy is transformable and under control. Identity Expansion Broke parts of “habit of being yourself” that depended on others for validation. Energy Awareness Recognized magnetic presence and began aligning with higher frequencies. Emotional Sovereignty Training Learned detachment without shutting down love; kept heart open with boundaries intact. Creative Boost Increased writing output, deep reflection, and self-worth insights. Self-Generated Warmth Developed sustainable ability to feel love without external input. ...

We’ve all heard it: “Don’t rely on motivation — build a system.” For years, I thought “system” just meant having a few good habits. But to my surprise, I realized that many of my habits actually work together like an ecosystem — pushing me forward even on my “bad” days. Why This Works Most people try to “fix” their life in one giant leap. But real growth works like a farm — daily planting, watering, and harvesting. No single action transforms you overnight, but small, steady actions compound into huge results. Each of my habits might only add a fraction of a percent to my growth each day. But together, they build momentum that compounds — physically, mentally, and emotionally. ...

Productivity isn’t just about tools, hacks, or schedules. At its core, productivity depends on how you think, learn, decide, focus, and adapt — all meta-skills. to be productive, mastering meta-skills is essense. it is a form of first principles thinking, because you’re reasoning from the foundational truth instead of just following common advice. following are 10 immportant meta skills: Think How to Think Mental models, reasoning, pattern recognition, decision-making. Learn How to Learn Rapid skill acquisition, spaced repetition, feedback loops. Read How to Read Extracting principles, filtering noise, retaining and applying ideas. Decide How to Decide Clear criteria, opportunity cost, inversion, probabilistic thinking. Communicate How to Communicate Writing, speaking, storytelling — clarity in expression leads to clarity in thought. Observe How to Observe Mindfulness, emotional awareness, attention training — noticing what others miss. ...

August 11, 2025 I woke up at 4:00 a.m. today. It reminded me of a time when I could rise at 4:30 — even 3:30 — simply because my connection with him filled me with energy. This morning, I felt that same spark. The moment I opened my eyes, it was as if I was watching the world through two pairs of eyes — mine and his. As I walked through the neighborhood we once shared, I saw him in every corner, and realized I was smiling. When I arrived at the gym and walked toward the VIP room, I saw the “movie” of us playing in front of every machine I passed. I don’t even need to close my eyes to recall these moments — they just appear. As the movie plays, I can revisit the feelings I had when we were side by side: the ease, the connection, the love, the warmth, the gentleness, the spark, the motivation, the encouragement. ...

10 Things I Quit after 40 Turning 40 wasn’t just a number — it was a portal. I didn’t just age — I evolved. Here are 10 things I let go of — to rise, reclaim my power, and live on my terms. Job Don’t rent your time — own things that grow without you. One year ago, I thought I would become a developer. This March, I considered being an online tutor. But now, I’ve quit the search for a “job.” I quit the idea of trading time for money. I no longer want to be hired — I want to build. Now, I create— Blogs that share my voice. Videos that express my ideas. Investments that grow quietly while I sleep. A life of freedom, not just function. ...

How I Changed My Life in 6 Months I Changed My Body Through Weight Training Changing the body is the first step to changing your life — because your body helps you grow strong, inside and out. 1. The Body is the Fastest Feedback Loop You can’t always see mental or emotional growth right away. But with the body, change is visible — and that visibility builds belief. I saw abs. My body fat dropped 2%. I could feel my muscles. I lifted more than my bodyweight. I did two pull-ups in a row. Every time I looked in the mirror, I realized: “I am strong. I am powerful. I am capable.” That visible proof created momentum. “If I can change my body — I can change my life.” 2. Discipline in the Body Becomes Discipline in the Mind Weight training is a mental game. Every workout is a practice in consistency, effort, and willpower. ...

Life Is Filled With Paradox What I’ve learned after 40: The truth lives in the tension between opposites. The deeper I walk on this path, the more I realize: Life doesn’t operate in straight lines — it flows in paradox. It’s not either/or — it’s both, woven together. And through my own experience, I’ve seen how truth often hides in contradiction. You Want Abundance? Give First. I began giving generously in May — money,encouragement, kindness, love. Since then, my stock portfolio started rising. Coincidence? Or energy flow? True abundance begins when you stop clutching and start contributing. You Pick the Shortcut, But It Takes You Longer I married a rich kid to take a shortcut — but eventually, the marriage became draining. ...

Think Clearly Before You Commit Before starting anything big — whether it’s building a brand, launching a business, or creating a YouTube channel — I believe there’s one thing you must do first: Think clearly. Take a moment. Pause. And ask yourself: Why do I want to do this? When you’re clear on why you’re doing something, you don’t need motivation. There’s a quote I love from Naval Ravikant: “Clear thinkers become clear speakers. Clear speakers become clear actors. Clear actors become clear winners.” In other words: Mental clarity → clear direction → clear actions → clear results. Before trying to work hard, chase success, or build wealth — you must first learn to think clearly. ...

Reclaiming the Morning with Compassion I went to bed at 10 last night and woke up at 5:30. Strangely, when I sleep before 9:30, I often wake around 4:30. So when I saw the time this morning, my first thought was: “It’s too late for my morning walk… I’m losing willpower.” But this time, I caught it — that old voice of self-blame. I didn’t let it spiral. Instead, I paused, took a breath, and chose compassion: “You’re still doing beautifully. 5:30 is still early.” And just like that, I reclaimed the morning. On Self-Compassion I went for a walk in the park — the one we once shared. And I thought of him again. Should I blame myself for still missing him? No. I choose self-compassion. For years, I felt unseen. Unworthy. I gave everything to my family, yet felt increasingly taken for granted. But in his eyes… ...

Awakening Diary — July 29, 2025 The Day I Stepped Into Practice Right before I woke up, I received a message in my dream: “You just need to write your awakening diary.” It was 3:59 a.m. Last night, I spent two hours struggling to organize the chapters of my book. The words felt messy. The task felt overwhelming. I thought — maybe it’s too hard to write a book. But this morning, I understood something deeper: There’s no need to worry. In awakening, you are guided by inspiration. So I decided — I’ll simply write what I’m inspired to write, and document it as a diary. I realized I had slipped into survival mode last night. Worrying about structure and outcome is another form of control. It showed me — I haven’t yet fully surrendered. I haven’t completely chosen to be guided. ...

On July,26,2025 I was woken up at 2:25 a.m. by my daughter. Every Friday night, my kids ask to sleep beside me. I usually fall right back asleep, but not this time. Today is his last day at the gym. I couldn’t stop thinking about our encounter yesterday. There was no warmth in his eyes — not even a trace. If he was a mirror, maybe he was simply reflecting what I was feeling inside. Every time I said thank you to him, he’d respond with a teasing “Again?” Yes, again. I said it many times. Because he helped me heal. Maybe he didn’t know how much. But is it the fact or just my performing? i question myself. ...

On Jul.28, 2025 Three days before we met at Starbucks, I saw him again at the gym. I looked at him and asked directly: “Why do you want to have coffee with me?” He replied, without hesitation: “Because I like you. And I think you’re positive.” I was surprised I didn’t cry. Because the last time someone said those words to me — “You’re so positive, you make me want to be positive too” — I did cry. That part of me — the light I’ve fought to keep alive — It’s not always been recognized. And when it is, it unravels something inside me. ...

on july.28,2025 I woke up at 2:48 and again at 4:49. Fortunately, I was able to fall back asleep. I got up at 5:18. I’m grateful I could sleep longer today. When I don’t sleep well, it feels like a cloud is drifting above my head — not outside, but within me. Before I rose from bed, a thought floated into my mind: the days I couldn’t fall back asleep in the early hours — because of him. It was 5:20 — time for my morning walk. Before I headed out, I noticed something. The two tents my kids had built in the living room two days ago were gone. The space was clear. What a relief. No wonder I hadn’t felt quite right yesterday. ...

on July.27,2025 i was woken up at 2:58 by my daughter again today. i try to go to bed but failed. and i discover a quiet habit i just got lately. before i get up, i love to touch my tummy and feel how flat it is. and after i get up, i love to look myself in the mirror in the bathroom half naked to enjoy how beauty my body looks like. that means: i start my day with appreciation and love for my body. i give myself a cup of water, and then start to finish the story of yesterday. on july.26,2025 i went outside for my morning walk at 5:21. when i arrvied at the park, the sky was dark full of dark heavy clouds. i couldn’t feel the energy and joy like i did before. i guess it was becasue i woke up too early that my head is a little bit numb. so i chose to take off my hat, which seems to avoid me from receiving energy from universe. then I turn around and found the sun is fighting with the clouds and light up almost 1/10 sky. i talked with ChatGPT about it. ...

I was woken up at 2:25 a.m. by my daughter. Every Friday night, my kids ask to sleep beside me. I usually fall right back asleep, but not this time. Today is his last day at the gym. I couldn’t stop thinking about our encounter yesterday. There was no warmth in his eyes — not even a trace. If he was a mirror, maybe he was simply reflecting what I was feeling inside. Every time I said thank you to him, he’d respond with a teasing “Again?” Yes, again. I said it many times. Because he helped me heal. Maybe he didn’t know how much. But is it the fact or just my performing? i question myself. Unable to fall back asleep, I got up and began recalling the story between us — where it began and how it changed me. ...